Conversare – an opportunity to give of ourselves, thoughtfully

November 30, 2014 |  by  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

In my previous post. I touched on the fact that loneliness is reportedly widespread in modern urban life. Some of this, I contend, can be attributed to people having poor conversational skills. By this I mean that the ability to engage in ways which show genuine interest in ‘the other’ is not well developed. Nor is the related skill of careful listening. Would you go along with this contention? Among the reasons for this is that nowhere in our educational experience is there a specific focus on what conversation is and why having good skills – particularly in listening and questioning - as...

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Conversare and the alleviation of loneliness

October 27, 2014 |  by  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

This kind of socialising, getting together in a public place with a host to do the welcoming, is simple to organise and to host, with a little experience. Whoever does this quickly appreciates how much pleasure and fun this can be for participants. And how satisfying this is, for likely diverse reasons. Among these are the sheer joy of engaging in lively conversation, partly with others who you happen to ‘bump into’ and particularly with the person with whom you have a meal. Likely the prospect of doing this will bring to mind memorable encounters with strangers you have had while...

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Conversare and ‘rethinking love’

September 29, 2014 |  by  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

The original idea of having gatherings of people who may not know each other in public places, with a host to do the welcoming and to set the scene, was mainly for social purposes. The first of these were held in Hong Kong which is a place in which it is very difficult to meet new people outside of the particular domain in which you work, such as business, health, education, government … The format proved popular for this purpose and many participants reportedly enjoyed the events and some went on to establish wider friendships. For whenever they happened to bump into...

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Engaging well with people with whom you have not ever had a conversation

August 30, 2014 |  by  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

Followers of this blog may appreciate that its focus has been on contexts in which people converse with others who they have not have ever met and may not do again. My purpose in convening such gatherings in public places, starting in Hong Kong and then periodically in Adelaide, where I now live, is to provide opportunities for  whoever comes to have enjoyable experiences. And behind and beyond this to become more conscious of just what conversing is – and does. To enable participants to be aware of how different our personal lives and that of people we encounter can be...

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Speaking to human beings

July 27, 2014 |  by  |  Uncategorized  |  No Comments

I wish to bring two key ideas to your attention. Actually it is one seminal idea! I’ll introduce the first, about conversation being a dance, in this post and address how it is also part of the second in my next, abw (all being well). These are both integral to the way of socialising, called Conversare, in which the essence is to have gatherings in public places in which all present have the opportunity to have a meal with a stranger. Why would anyone do this? Many people have told me that this is last thing on earth they would want to do!...

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